At some point we probably thought they were cute, but over time habits can drive us to distraction. Some habits can be destructive, such as drugs, others are just there annoyingly in the background. Habits are part of who we are. Often we don’t even realize we are doing them. Whether we try to ignore them or not, habits can start to drive a wedge between partners.
What happens with habits cause strife in a relationship?
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Some questions to ask:
** How often are you annoyed with your spouse’s habits?
** What types of habits can be annoying?
** How can habits be broken?
** Who takes responsibility for habits?
** What would it take for you to ask your spouse to list annoying habits you have?
** What stops you from asking?
The woman “set herself up” by not planning ahead to have the discussion about the son. Yes, the man is rude by taking a phone call in the middle of her conversation, but if she had asked him to set aside a time for one-on-one time, even if it’s 5-10 minutes he would be prepared and not caught off guard.
Other observations:
- man needs to keep business time and personal/family time separate and establish healthy boundaries; this conveys to the family that they are first and valued.
- woman should not accuse him of not caring for his family or his son and overgeneralize the one instance.
First: from the wife’s anger it is probably a repeating pattern of her husband, saying he is available to discuss things but not really committed (such as turn off your phone).
Second: Giving the husband minutes to unwind, change his work clothes, take a 5 minute shift into home would probably help him
Third; Husband has obvious boundary issue. Seems to be a pleaser kind of person. Calling his wife a client was dumb. If she was really a client it is obvious the kind of treatment she would get!
Great video, very realistic and I wish it was in 2 parts. Part 1 as it and Part 2 a better way for both to approach this issue.
Good points Hyacinth and Glyndell. Those are helpful suggestions on how each of them could better approach the issue.